Taking Stock of Needs and Feelings

Sometimes, when we are working to take stock of our feelings or needs, it is useful to have an inventory or list, to help prompt our thoughts.  The following two inventories are used with permission of the Center for Nonviolent Communication   (see end of this page for contact information).

Needs Inventory

The following list of needs is neither exhaustive nor definitive. It is meant as a starting place to support anyone who wishes to engage in a process of deepening self-discovery and to facilitate greater understanding and connection between people.

  • CONNECTION – acceptance affection appreciation belonging cooperation communication closeness community companionship compassion consideration consistency empathy inclusion intimacy love mutuality nurturing respect/self-respect safety security stability support, to know and be known / see and be seen / understand and be understood, trust, warmth
  • PHYSICAL WELL-BEING – air, food, water, movement/exercise, rest/sleep, sexual expression, safety, shelter, touch
  • HONESTY – authenticity, integrity, presence
  • PLAY – joy, humor
  • PEACEbeauty, communion, ease, equality, harmony, inspiration, order
  • MEANING – awareness, celebration of life, challenge, clarity, competence, consciousness, contribution, creativity, discovery, efficacy, effectiveness, growth, hope, learning, mourning, participation, purpose, self-expression, stimulation, to matter, understanding
  • AUTONOMY – choice, freedom, independence, space, spontaneity

FEELINGS INVENTORY

The following words help to express a combination of emotional states and physical sensations. This list is neither exhaustive nor definitive. It is meant as a starting place to support anyone who wishes to engage in a process of deepening self-discovery and to facilitate greater understanding and connection between people. There are two parts to this list: feelings we may have when our needs are being met and feelings we may have when our needs are not being met.

– Feelings when your needs are satisfied –

  • AFFECTIONATE – compassionate, friendly, loving, open hearted, sympathetic, tender, warm
  • CONFIDENT – empowered open, proud, safe, secure
  • ENGAGED – absorbed, alert, curious, engrossed, enchanted, entranced, fascinated, interested, intrigued, involved, spellbound, stimulated
  • EXCITED – amazed, animated, ardent, aroused, astonished, dazzled, eager, energetic, enthusiastic, giddy, invigorated, lively, passionate, surprised, vibrant
  • EXHILARATED – blissful, ecstatic, elated, enthralled, exuberant, radiant, rapturous, thrilled
  • INSPIRED – amazed, awed, wonder
  • GRATEFUL – appreciative, moved, thankful, touched
  • HOPEFUL – expectant, encouraged, optimistic
  • JOYFUL – amused, delighted, glad, happy, jubilant, pleased, tickled
  • PEACEFUL – calm, clear headed, comfortable, centered, content, equanimous, fulfilled, mellow, quiet, relaxed, relieved, satisfied, serene, still, tranquil, trusting
  • REFRESHED – enlivened, rejuvenated, renewed, rested, restored, revived

– Feelings when your needs are not satisfied –

  • AFRAID – apprehensive, dread, foreboding, frightened, mistrustful, panicked, petrified, scared, suspicious, terrified, wary, worried
  • ANNOYED – aggravated, dismayed, disgruntled, displeased, exasperated, frustrated, impatient, irritated, irked
  • ANGRY – enraged, furious, incensed, indignant, irate, livid, outraged, resentful
  • AVERSION – animosity, appalled, contempt, disgusted, dislike, hate, horrified, hostile, repulsed,
  • CONFUSED – ambivalent, baffled, bewildered, dazed, hesitant, lost, mystified, perplexed, puzzled, torn
  • DISCONNECTED – alienated, aloof, apathetic, bored, cold, detached, distant, distracted, indifferent, numb, removed, uninterested, withdrawn
  • DISQUIET – agitated, alarmed, discombobulated, disconcerted, disturbed, perturbed, rattled, restless, shocked, startled, surprised, troubled, turbulent, turmoil, uncomfortable, uneasy, unnerved, unsettled, upset
  • EMBARRASSED – ashamed, chagrined, flustered, guilty, mortified, self-conscious
  • FATIGUE – beat, burnt out, depleted, exhausted, lethargic, listless, sleepy, tired, weary, worn out
  • PAIN – agony, anguished, bereaved, devastated, grief, heartbroken, hurt, lonely, miserable, regretful, remorseful
  • SAD – depressed, dejected, despair, despondent, disappointed, discouraged, disheartened, forlorn, gloomy, heavy hearted, hopeless, melancholy, unhappy, wretched
  • TENSE – anxious, cranky, distressed, distraught, edgy, fidgety, frazzled, irritable, jittery, nervous, overwhelmed, restless, stressed out
  • VULNERABLE – fragile, guarded, helpless, insecure, leery, reserved, sensitive, shaky
  • YEARNING – envious, jealous, longing, nostalgic, pining, wistful

The contents of this page were used with permission of the Center for Nonviolent Communication which states they can be downloaded and copied by anyone so long as they credit CNVC as follows:

(c) 2005 by Center for Nonviolent Communication
Website: www.cnvc.org Email: cnvc@cnvc.org
Phone: +1.505-244-4041

 

Categories Health and Healing | Tags: | Posted on April 15, 2012

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